Dedication to My Wife – I See You…

Core Decay

God has a really weird sense of humor sometimes. I had this post stored up as a “draft” for weeks now. Part of my blog ideas list and never really got around to writing. But our little fight today and Kat’s FB post triggered this memory. And the ironic twist is that we were fighting over the very content of this post! – “Just ‘cos you don’t see it doesn’t mean its not happening.”

It has taken many many years of constant refining and God’s loving sanctification for me to see this. Today is a testament of many many more “sanctification incidents” to come…

You see, most people, due to sin have subconsciously or even consciously trained their attitudes towards people to be “guilty til proven innocent”. This is more so in our Chinese or Singaporean background than it is here in Australia. But I’ve seen this time and time again personally, relation-ally and professionally. People “see ghosts” everywhere! Just because you don’t hear about something or see something with your own eyes, you imagine the worse! This is how gossip and politics brew. This is how conflict grows.

Another recent Facebook post illustrates this perfectly:


In a mother’s womb were two babies. One asked the other: “Do you believe in life after delivery?” The other replies, “why, of course. There has to be something after delivery. Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later. “Nonsense,” says the other. “There is no life after delivery. What would that life be?” “I don’t know, but there will be more light than here. Maybe we will walk with our legs and eat from our mouths.”

The other says “This is absurd! Walking is impossible. And eat with our mouths? Ridiculous. The umbilical cord supplies nutrition. Life after delivery is to be excluded. The umbilical cord is too short.” “I think there is something and maybe it’s different than it is here.” the other replies, “No one has ever come back from there. Delivery is the end of life, and in the after-delivery it is nothing but darkness and anxiety and it takes us nowhere.”

“Well, I don’t know,” says the other, “but certainly we will see mother and she will take care of us.” “Mother??” You believe in mother? Where is she now? “She is all around us. It is in her that we live. Without her there would not be this world.” “I don’t see her, so it’s only logical that she doesn’t exist.” To which the other replied, “sometimes when you’re in silence you can hear her, you can perceive her.” I believe there is a reality after delivery and we are here to prepare ourselves for that reality.


So what does this all have to do with my post to dedicate to my wife? Well I want to acknowledge here in the inter-webs, publicly, that I do see what’s happening behind the scenes. That I appreciate everything that she does. Even when it’s not apparent and unseen. Even if it may seem that I don’t see it when I work or when she goes out doing chores. Even if it’s “secret spy business” (inside joke)…

Kat is a very meticulous and masterful strategist. I’ve always respected her as a fellow intellect with awesome planning skills and most likely smarter than me by miles! She can notice and think of things 3 to 4 steps ahead. I really respect that and I want to not lose sight of that when I don’t see it. I want to be reminded that everything she does is always ultimately for the good of the family. I have personally seen her grown so much in godliness it makes me tear up how good God is. The weight that she bears being a mum, a wife, a daughter and a daughter-in-law is unimaginable. But I want to remind her that ultimately, she is secure in Christ. And that nothing we say, do or think matters because she is made holy before God because of Christ. And I see Christ in her. Everyday.

“For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.” Ephesians 3:14-19, ESV

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